cross-posted from: https://lemmy.today/post/63107763
I’m looking for something like Snikket or Prosody, but kids-oriented. I DON’T want my <10 daughter using Meta Messenger Kids! I’ll tell my friends to setup for their kids, too. I’d have no access to anything, so it’s secure (mom and dad not snooping per se), but the downside is minimal parental controls. Though, no one to really add either.
I’ll host or pay for it, IDC. It doesn’t seem like there is much out there either.
JusTalk seemed nice when I found out but apparently China owned and so no more secure. I/we need better options!
Setup a private matrix instance
Mayrix is awfully rough around the edges
Second this. My friend group has been using my Matrix server for years.
I would love to see the success rate of getting the parents of the child’s friend to set up a matrix client for their child’s one friend that doesn’t use anything they do.
Help your child embrace not needing to be constantly in communication with her friends, to (gasp) use the phone … or accept and monitor the evil empires’ offerings but no matter what you do, don’t for one second think you’ll get a single family to set up a matrix client for “that one kid”.
How would you compare setting up your own Matrix server vs an XMPP server?
I was going to recommend XMPP to OP, and I don’t have any experience with setting up Matrix.
Selfhosting both. Continuwuity is more straightforward to set up than ejabberd, mostly because of easier docs, less ports, and less subdomains required. It also comes with most things you need rather than a bunch of toggled-on modules, and I’d say Matrix being HTTP makes it more “conventional” for beginners.
XMPP is significantly more lightweight though, being a message passing protocol rather than state syncing.
AFAIK, xmpp is easier to maintain and requires less resources.
I have no skin in either game, so I couldn’t give you an honest answer here. I only suggested matrix because I believe it would fit the scenario
Bummer.
Oh well
Anyone ever use FluffyChat? That seems based on Matrix and cute like it’d be kid friendly. I’ll look more into matrix in general! TY
I use Fluffychat, it’s a nice app
Hell even the default one is better than everything else out there besides signal and xmpp. Don’t necessarily gotta host your own