cross-posted from: https://lemmy.today/post/63107763
I’m looking for something like Snikket or Prosody, but kids-oriented. I DON’T want my <10 daughter using Meta Messenger Kids! I’ll tell my friends to setup for their kids, too. I’d have no access to anything, so it’s secure (mom and dad not snooping per se), but the downside is minimal parental controls. Though, no one to really add either.
I’ll host or pay for it, IDC. It doesn’t seem like there is much out there either.
JusTalk seemed nice when I found out but apparently China owned and so no more secure. I/we need better options!
How would you compare setting up your own Matrix server vs an XMPP server?
I was going to recommend XMPP to OP, and I don’t have any experience with setting up Matrix.
Selfhosting both. Continuwuity is more straightforward to set up than ejabberd, mostly because of easier docs, less ports, and less subdomains required. It also comes with most things you need rather than a bunch of toggled-on modules, and I’d say Matrix being HTTP makes it more “conventional” for beginners.
XMPP is significantly more lightweight though, being a message passing protocol rather than state syncing.
AFAIK, xmpp is easier to maintain and requires less resources.
I have no skin in either game, so I couldn’t give you an honest answer here. I only suggested matrix because I believe it would fit the scenario
Bummer.
Oh well