I will say, I really want someone* to make a Jellyfin aggregator so you can use multiple servers at once.

*Not me.

100% my experience as well. The external authentication requirement is what made my choose Jellyfin a couple years ago.

I was forcing VPN for a couple years but I’ve just recently started allowlisting client IPs instead. Not as good but definitely easier.

I love Stirling PDF. I use it probably once a quarter on average. But it’s always there, ready to be useful.

I’ve been making people use VPN, but that’s been a huge barrier to entry. I’m in the process of switching to IP allow list in traefik.

Looks like you should be able to do so:

https://community.traefik.io/t/traefik-as-reverse-proxy-server-to-external-web-server/15619/3

https://community.traefik.io/t/traefik-v3-reverse-proxy-to-external-ip/25899

I just get alerts over telegram. They’re just regular notifications, but you could probably set specific notification behavior and sounds for the app?

Edit: Though that’s not a selfhosted solution. Sometimes it’s a decision between reliability and selfhosted. e.g., I went back to Tailscale from Headscale when I lost connectivity through Headscale and couldn’t figure out how to get it back.

If you click the source linked, you can read through all the details.

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